Hi everyone. I’m Sharon, I’m from North Carolina, just thought I’d introduce myself since I haven’t actually posted on this forum yet. I’m looking for any words of wisdom you all might have on how to get yourself started with unchurching when you move to a new area and you know… well, absolutely no one? Haha.
My husband and I are new to the Charlotte NC area. We just moved here in the last couple of weeks. My husband is thinking we need to find a church. (He’s still in the IC, but I think he could be persuaded to unchurch if the timing was right).
We visited a couple of IC’s last Sunday. They reminded me again why I don’t like the IC: a sermon that felt more like a sale of institutional gimmickry, music so loud I couldn’t hear myself think, people more interested in hustling us off to whatever age-segregated program they thought we fit, rather than getting to know us or letting us get to know them. I’m sorry if I sound harsh. I despise the institution; NOT the people, I want to be clear on that.
I am kind of drawing a blank on how to meet other Christians where I am, without just giving up and getting back into the IC environment again which I find so incredibly unhealthy. I’m worried I’m going to have to join an IC again just to find other Christians. I don’t want to do that, but I’m not sure what else to do. (I work from home, so I’m not just naturally out and about mingling with people anyway.)
I guess I’m wondering, has anyone had the experience of being new somewhere with no real connections and if so how did you find Christians to hang around with?
P.S. I should add – unfortunately the group map here isn’t showing up for me, so I’m not able to see if anyone here is in my area.